The key word in 1 Corinthians 14 is “edification.” Love should have made the disciples desire those gifts which had the greatest capacity spiritually to strengthen their brothers and sisters. Instead, they preferred the gift of tongues, with which they could be more evident and feel more important.

It is the same for you. If you do not speak clearly with your tongue, how will anyone know what is being said? For you will be speaking into the air.
1 Corinthians 14.9 NET Continue reading

Selfishness and rudeness are two sides of the same coin. Selfishness does not care how words and acts may affect others. The person who loves behaves with good manners, knows how to thank, apologize, excuse himself.

It is not rude, it is not self-serving, it is not easily angered or resentful.
1 Corinthians 13.5 NET Continue reading

Pagans speak ill of others and find it difficult to praise people. They criticize, gossip, and lie. Christians, as children of God who have his character, speak well of others whenever possible and engage in the gossip of love.

[Epaphras] also told us of your love in the Spirit.
Colossians 1:8 NET

Several times the New Testament connects love to the Holy Spirit. Love is the fruit of the Spirit. The Spirit is the channel through whom God gives us his love; first, through the revelation of the history of Christ and, second, through the habitation of the Spirit in us as the active agent of love.

The love of the Colossians was alive and real, so notable that Epaphras reported to Paul about it.

Whoever seeks for love in God’s people will find and praise it.